Last week I coached several speakers with a lot in common. The all thought fear for speaking was their ‘issue’. Most of the time that’s not was is going on. Fear is a selfish habit as a speaker. If you have something serious to say, you put still your fear first.
Habits get in the way if you want something else than you do in real time. The habit of procrastination, the habit of ignorance, the habit of breaking your word to a promise, the habit of being late.
There is a TV commercial saying ‘never change a winning team….’
I don’t agree. Keep a winning team fresh and developing I would say.
You can’t see your blind-spots because they are blind-spots.. Not in a team and not as an individual.
Back to public speaking and habits. I’m a big fan of recording my coachees with their speeches and talk it over the next coaching session. Cover blind-spots and seeking unwanted habits as a speaker. I remember a ferm discussion about hands in pockets as a speaker on stage. He said: ‘that’s me in my see me being relaxed as a speaker mode’.  That can be the case.
Do you see the speaker’s picture above this post? It is at one of the most prestigious events in the Netherlands. People paid €795 to see this. Would you?
I will just share with you some habits:
1. he is insecure about his content, he is clinging on speaker-notes
2. he is hiding his feelings because he is seeking for support in his own pocket on his ‘feeling-side’ How does that come across?
3. he is avoiding eye-contact with the audience. He is busy ‘carpet-inspecting’ as a speaker. How does that feel when you are in the room?
You might not be aware about the signals you give to your audience. The signals of this speaker are clear:
I’m insecure and avoiding you.
I don’t think that was his mission of that day, do you think so?
I can tell you congruent as he was: it was really hard to understand him in how he used his voice too.
Don’t get me wrong, I don’t blame him: you can’t know what you don’t know. Blind-spots….
All coachees this week shared one other thing in common. They were eager to improve and let go of their developed habits. The good thing is: you can replace this unwanted habit for a supportive habit. How?
Keep calm and get a coach!
Not sure is you have speaker blind-spots?
Do your Speaker Self-assessment here… .